Becoming a surrogate is a big step that can generate a lot of questions. Here are some of the most frequently asked questions we receive:
Q: What is a Gestational carrier?
A: Gestational carriers are women who choose to carry a pregnancy for those who cannot carry a pregnancy to term without help, there is no genetic connection on the part of the surrogate.
Q: I had my tubes tied, can I still be a gestational surrogate?
A: Absolutely! A pregnancy in a gestational surrogate is accomplished through in vitro fertilization (IVF). In IVF, the embryos are placed directly into the surrogate’s uterus, so it is not necessary to use the surrogate’s fallopian tubes.
Q: Will I meet the intended parents?
A: Yes, unless you and the intended parents reach an agreement to the contrary. Usually, you meet via Skype before you are officially matched and the medical evaluation begins.
Q: Is there anything required of my husband/partner?
A: Your husband or partner must agree to participate in medical screening (HIV, Hepatitis B, Hepatitis C, CMV, and any other sexually transmitted diseases or disorders, as well as illegal drug, including marijuana). The same request must be made of any person with whom you have had sexual contact during the three months prior to applying as a surrogate. For surrogates who are married or are in a committed long-term relationship, husbands/partners must become parties to the contract and must cooperate with all provisions of the contract. The husband or partner will also join you for a psychologist evaluation.
Q: What if I have already found the intended parents I want to help? Can Modern Conceptions help us?
A: Absolutely! We are happy to assist those surrogates and intended parents along their journey with contract needs, fertility clinic coordination, and finalizing the parent and child relationship after delivery. Our agency fees for helping in this way are reduced accordingly. If you are a surrogate who has already found a family you want to help, call us at (503) 949-9800. We will be glad to answer your questions and further describe how we can help you and your couple.
Q: Can I be a surrogate if I don’t have health insurance?
A: Yes! You can be a surrogate even if you don’t have health insurance or if your current health insurance plan does not cover a surrogate pregnancy. Intended parents will purchase a health insurance policy for you for the duration of your surrogacy.
Q: Why would someone choose surrogacy over adoption?
A: Adoption is a wonderful choice for many people. However, surrogacy has a number of practical and medical advantages. When egg and/or sperm from the intended parents are used, there will be an actual genetic relationship to the child. In gestational surrogacies, embryos are created outside the womb through in vitro fertilization (IVF). Before implantation occurs, pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD) can detect certain chromosomal abnormalities in the embryo typically discovered mid-pregnancy. Moreover, unlike in most adoptions, intended parents closely monitor the health and progress of the pregnancy and birth. The surrogate’s obligations and compensation are governed by contract, which provides a distinct measure of security to all involved. In contrast with adoption, the carrier in a surrogacy has significantly diminished to non-existent parental rights once the baby is born.
Q: Can the surrogate acquire legal custody to the child?
A: If the intended parents fulfill their contractual obligations, it would be virtually impossible for a gestational carrier to acquire legal custody after the birth. The surrogate has no genetic relation to the child. In states where a pre-birth order can be obtained, the intended parents appear on the original birth certificate.
Q: Where can the medical procedures take place?
A: The participants decide, along with Modern Conceptions recommendations, on a reputable IVF clinic that is conveniently located to the intended parents, and/or donor and/or carrier. Travel may be required for some of the parties.
We would love for you to contact us to learn more about becoming a surrogate.